If you are a guy reading this, you
have probably noticed that, instead
of opting for a nice and calm partner
who would treat her right (you), the
girl usually chooses a ‘bad boy’. If
you are a girl, then you probably are
wondering why you are attracted to
and end up with a man who treats
you badly. We’ve tried to come up
with sensible reasons why this
happens, but you are very welcome
to add some new insights on the
matter in the comments!
1. Not real. Nice guys are too nice. No
one can always be that nice unless
they’re a saint. They are busy being
nice instead of being real and women
instinctually don’t trust that. Bad boys
“keep it real.” Nice guys don’t want to
upset the apple cart.
2. Respect. No one respects a
doormat. Nice guys don’t set
boundaries or make any real demands.
A bad boy doesn’t let a woman walk all
over him or control him. Women can’t
respect a man they can control. No
respect equals no attraction.
3. Predictable. Most people lead boring,
predictable lives, so they’re attracted to
people who are exciting and a bit
unpredictable. Bad boys are always a
challenge. Nice guys are never a
challenge. Predictable plus no
excitement plus no challenge.
4. Mother Nature. Women are designed
to nurture. However, instead of doing
this with children, they often end up
doing it with bad boys. They think their
love will save them. Nice guys rarely
need to be saved.
5. Fixing. Nice guys don’t usually need
to be fixed. Bad boys usually do, so they
become a project. Women think if they
can “create” the perfect man, he will
never leave them. Also, if they’re busy
fixing someone else, they don’t have to
look at what needs to be fixed in their
own lives.
6. Genetic wars. Women are designed
to procreate with the strongest possible
genes. Bad boys are sending an
unconscious message that they have
great genes, so they’re not afraid of
losing the woman by misbehaving. Nice
guys are sending a message that they
don’t think their genes are good
enough, so they won’t misbehave.
7. Fear of intimacy. If a woman is afraid
of intimacy, she subconsciously knows
she can avoid it with a bad boy, since
she can never get close enough to him
to have to go there. A nice guy will
eventually want a commitment, and
that’s scary.
8. Low self-esteem: We don’t feel
comfortable with people who treat us
better than we treat ourselves. If you
don’t think much of yourself, the bad
boy is simply reinforcing your negative
belief. A nice guy is treating you in a
way you’re not familiar with.
9. s*x. Women feel a nice guy won’t be
good in bed. They sometimes like to be
manhandled and think a nice guy won’t
be able to take control and get the job
done. A bad boy comes across as being
able to deliver, even though that may
not always be the case.
10. Hot. Have you ever seen a bad
boy who wasn’t hot? They probably
wouldn’t be able to get away with half
the stuff they did if they didn’t look so
good. Meanwhile, when a woman
describes someone as a nice guy, she
means, “He’s not hot.”
11. Charm. Nice guys don’t always
know what to say and are sometimes at
a loss for words. Bad boys can be very
charming and know exactly what
women want to hear. However, they
eventually switch over to being selfish.
By the time they reveal their true
colors, the woman has fallen for them
and has a hard time letting go.
12. Protection. Historically, men have
protected women — physically and
otherwise. Bad boys give the illusion of
being able to protect women, while
with nice guys, women aren’t so sure.
Life is about balance. Most men fall into
either the bad boy or the nice
guy category. The ideal man is neither,
but walks that fine line between the
two. Until men learn how to do this,
more often than not, women will
choose the bad boy, until they realize
that his bad qualities outweigh his good
ones.
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